Fraternal Correction Points by Fr. Herbert F. Smith, S.J.

  1. Unless you are a model correction taker, be slow to give it.
  2. Correct like a friend and fellow sinner, not like an enemy.
  3. Knowing how you resent unjust correction, never inflict it.
  4. Harping on past faults is not correction but condemnation.
  5. Know that love wins over better than an army of accusations.
  6. Get help to correct when it is needed.
  7. Frame the correction so it will heal and not wound further.
  8. Decide first whether the person needs correction or help.
  9. Correct infrequently, and only the greater failings.
  10. Correction hurts, so don’t correct with a sledgehammer.
  11. Think how prayerfully Mary would correct, and imitate her.
  12. Put yourself in the culprit’s shoes and think about it.  You may end up congratulating him for not being worse!